We’ve all been hurt by another person at one time or another. This pain causes problems
. It not only causes us to be unhappy, but can ruin relationships, distract(使分心) us from work and family and other important things, make us unwilling to open up new things.
We need to learn to let go. We need to be able to forgive, so we can move on and be happy. Forgiveness does not mean you erase the past, or forget what has happened. All it means is that you are letting go of the anger and pain, and moving on to a better place.
It’s not easy, but you can learn to d
o it.
Think about the advantages and disadvanges. Think of all the problems this pain causes you, and realize you need to change. Then think of the benefits of forgiveness—— how it will make you happier, free you from the past and the pain, and improve your relationships and life in general.
Try to put yourself in that person’s situation. Try to understand why the person did what he did. What could he have felt as he did it, and what did he feel afterward? How does he feel now? You aren’t saying what he did is right, but are trying to understand instead.
Understand your responsibility. Try to figure out how you could have been partly responsible for what happened. This isn’t to say you’re taking all the blame, or taking responsibility away from the other person, but to realize that we are not victims(受害者) but participants in life.
Allow peace to enter your life. As you focus on the present, try focusing on your breathing. Imagine each breath going out is the pain and the past, and imagine each breath coming in is peace, entering you and filling you up.
Title: How to let go and forgive
小题1: caused by being hurt
| Making us unhappy; distracting from daily life;
Ruining relationships; making us close to new things.
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Definition of forgiveness
| ●Letting go of the 小题2: ;
●Moving on to a better place.
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Benefits of forgiveness
| ●Making you happier;
●小题3: from the past and the pain;
●Improving your relationships and life in general
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小题4:
| ●Thinking about the advantages and disavantages;
●Trying to understand the other person as if you were in the same situation；
●Figuring out 小题5: ;
●Allowing peace to enter your life.
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