Direction: Read the following passage. Fill in the numbered blanks by using the information from the passage. Write NO MORE THAN THREE WORDS for each answer.
We know that in many cases things aren’t personal, but we tend to think that things are about us, whether good or bad. For instance, when your friends go on a night out without inviting you, you probably get upset and end up shouting at them. If you tend to take things so personally, then this will be upsetting you and damaging your self-respect--- and it might also be putting unnecessary stress on your relationships. So it’s important for us to take some steps to stop taking things so personally.
Firstly, assess the situation more logically. Don’t give in to your immediate emotional reaction---rather take a step back and think about what has happened. For instance, if you’re upset because weren’t invited to an event, then think it like this: Was it an event that they maybe thought you wouldn’t be interested in? Or was it an event that perhaps they didn’t think you could make? When you step back and stop being egocentric(以自我为中心）, then you’ll easily see many other possible reasons for your not being invited.
Also don’t blame yourself. Sometimes, the person does mean to be critical and rude. However, you can view this as their problem and not as something you’ve done wrong. If someone you know is regularly acting badly towards you, it may even be that they feel threatened by you because they’re impressed by you--- actually that’s a compliments(褒扬）in a way.
Focusing on the positive is also important. Our friends say countless nice things about us on an average day and this helps to slowly develop our self-confidence. If someone has given us 20 compliment and one insult, then why should this damage our self-confidence? If you’re feeling low, try to think back to the positive things that have been said to you.
Title: Taking Things Too Personally
小题1:___________.
| Tending to think things are about oneself though they’re not personal.
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Examples
| Getting upset and angry when you aren’t 小题2:_______ to join in a group activity.
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小题3:_________
| Upsetting one and 小题4:________________
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Affecting your relationships with others
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Solutions
| 小题5:____________
| Not 小题6:________ immediately before thinking about it
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Thinking without being egocentric about the possible小题7:_______ of the incident.
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小题8:__________
| Viewing other’s rude criticism as their problem
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Regarding other’s 小题9:__________ towards you as a compliment.
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Focusing on the positive
| Protecting our self-confidence from being damaged by an occasional insult
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小题10:_____ things our friends said to us when feeling down.
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