A wave of recent research has pointed to the risks of over praising a child. And it seems that how to draw a line between too little praise and too much has become a high-pressure _
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act for parents.
Self-esteem (自尊) serves as a kind of tool to measure how much children feel valued and accepted by
. This sensitivity to others'
develops because of humans' need for social acceptance, which is considered to be
to survival. As early as age 8, children's self-esteem tends to rise and fall in response to feedbacks about
peers see them as likable or attractive.
, it can also be beneficial for kids to feel bad about themselves occasionally, if they behave in selfish, mean or hurtful ways that might
their ability to maintain relationships or hold a job in the future.
In the past, many parents and educators believed that high self-esteem
happiness and success, and kids could gain self-esteem simply by getting
and awards from their parents, teachers and people around. But recently researchers have found self-esteem doesn't _
these desired results. Instead, if parents praise their kids
, their self-esteem becomes focused on being very smart and being the best and being perfect. Building too much self-esteem of the children can not go as planned, making them feel
later on when they hit setbacks (挫折).
According to some experts, it can actually be good for kids to have
self-esteem, at least once in a while. And praise can be
if it disregards the world outside the home. Children who have a
understanding of how they are seen by others tend to get recovered more readily
disappointment, depression or the like. The best path is a
road, helping children develop a positive but
view of themselves in relation to others by praising them for the
they invest and behaviors they are able to sustain, like "It's
that you're working so hard on your homework. "
| 小题1: | | A．balancing | B．crashing | C．forcing | D．embarrassing |
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| 小题2: | | A．themselves | B．parents | C．others | D．teachers |
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| 小题3: | | A．views | B．envies | C．favors | D．blames |
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| 小题4: | | A．irrelevant | B．similar | C．important | D．sensitive |
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| 小题5: | | A．when | B．whether | C．how | D．where |
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| 小题6: | | A．Indeed | B．Otherwise | C．Therefore | D．However |
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| 小题7: | | A．improve | B．damage | C．change | D．develop |
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| 小题8: | | A．promised | B．delayed | C．purchased | D．ruined |
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| 小题9: | | A．support | B．help | C．challenge | D．praise |
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| 小题10: | | A．settle down | B．work out | C．give away | D．bring about |
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| 小题11: | | A．rarely | B．carefully | C．constantly | D．casually |
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| 小题12: | | A．worse | B．stronger | C．better | D．madder |
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| 小题13: | | A．high | B．much | C．low | D．little |
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| 小题14: | | A．powerful | B．harmful | C．grateful | D．stressful |
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| 小题15: | | A．practical | B．limited | C．basic | D．perfect |
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| 小题17: | | A．straight | B．smooth | C．middle | D．rough |
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| 小题18: | | A．general | B．realistic | C．different | D．negative |
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| 小题19: | | A．talent | B．time | C．money | D．effort |
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| 小题20: | | A．necessary | B．awesome | C．worthless | D．awful |
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