People hold the belief that a fun-filled, pain free life equals happiness actually reduces their chances of ever attaining real happiness. If fun and pleasure are equal to happiness then pain must be equal to unhappiness. But in fact, the opposite is true: more often things that lead to happiness involve some pain.
As a result, many people don’t like the very attempts that are the source of true happiness. They fear the pain brought by such things as marriage, raising children, professional achievement, commitment(承担的义务)，self-improvement.
Ask a bachelor why he resists marriage even though he finds dating to be less and less satisfying. If he is honest, he will tell you that he is afraid of making a commitment, for commitment is in fact quite painful. The single life is filled with fun, adventure, excitement. Marriage has such moments, but they are not its most obvious features.
Couples with infant children are lucky to get a whole night’s sleep or a three-day vacation. I don’t know any parent who would choose the word “fun” to describe raising children. But couples who decide not to have children never know the joys of watching a child grow up or of playing with a grandchild.
Understanding and accepting true happiness is one of the most liberating realizations because true happiness has nothing to do with fun. It liberates(解放) time: now we can devote more hours to activities that can genuinely increase our happiness. It liberates money: buying that new car or those fancy clothes that will do nothing to increase our happiness now seems pointless. And it liberates us from envy: we now understand that all those who are always having so much fun actully may not be happy at all.
小题1:According to the author, a bachelor resists marriage chiefly because____
A．he is unwilling to take family responsibilities
B．he believes that life will be more cheerful if he remains single
C．he finds more fun in dating than in marriage
D．he fears it will put an end to all his fun, adventure and excitement小题2: The underlined word bachelor means_________
A．a married man
B．a college student
C．a single man
D．an academic degree小题3:From the last paragraph, we learn that envy sometimes results from______
A．hatred
B．misunderstanding
C．prejudice
D．ignorance小题4:To understand what true happiness, one must________
A．have as much fun as possible during one’s lifetime.
B．make every effort to liberate oneself from pain
C．put up with pain under all circumstances
D．be able to distinguish happiness from fun小题5:What is the author trying to tell us?
A．Happiness often goes hand in hand with pain.
B．One must know how to attain happiness.
C．It is important to make commitments.
D．It is pain that leads to happiness.
